A non-exhaustive guide for the adoptive parents who would otherwise contact me for one-on-one advice.
It felt like I was dying unseen.
Identity and our understanding of it isn’t fixed, and all aspects of it matter—even as they change and evolve.
It’s been a strange year and somehow the viral and racial pandemics have got me thinking about robots. I’ve been considering how we use technology for better and worse, the dehumanization of the lower castes, and the parallels of robot fantasy and White supremacy.
What’s often touted as Asian privilege is racist participation. Upholding White supremacy is not a privilege but a crime that sometimes rewards us.
We must root out all narcissism from our society, repair inter- and intra-community trauma, and rebuild systems that enable our most vulnerable to thrive. Without it, we will always have hate, theft, violence, and escapism.
Practicing Radical Acceptance we let go of the idea that it’s our job to prove our worth as humans; to change who we are, or how we’re perceived.
Some like to pretend light-skinned East Asians are The Other White Meat, and we’re supposed to happily act out the facade. In truth, Asians in the West have little political power, the greatest income gap, and have always been targets for under-reported social violence.
There’s a certain type of White folk who refer to themselves as the Good Ones. Those words are tossed on like a cape meant to magically conceal and absolve racism.
Like many transracial adoptees with White parents, I was raised in racial isolation, which caused me to have a fractured identity, experiencing racial confusion and internal bias.