How to Support the Person You Adopted
A non-exhaustive guide for the adoptive parents who would otherwise contact me for one-on-one advice.
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Health.com | My Experience With Transracial Adoption
It felt like I was dying unseen.
The Complex Identity of the Displaced
Identity and our understanding of it isn’t fixed, and all aspects of it matter—even as they change and evolve.
Bad Robots
It’s been a strange year and somehow the viral and racial pandemics have got me thinking about robots. I’ve been considering how we use technology for better and worse, the dehumanization of the lower castes, and the parallels of robot fantasy and White supremacy.
Asian Americans Fighting Ourselves and Anti-Blackness
What’s often touted as Asian privilege is racist participation. Upholding White supremacy is not a privilege but a crime that sometimes rewards us.
White Supremacy is Systemic Narcissism
We must root out all narcissism from our society, repair inter- and intra-community trauma, and rebuild systems that enable our most vulnerable to thrive. Without it, we will always have hate, theft, violence, and escapism.
Yes! Magazine | How I Found Racial Healing During the Pandemic
Practicing Radical Acceptance we let go of the idea that it’s our job to prove our worth as humans; to change who we are, or how we’re perceived.
Safe in Our Own Skin
Some like to pretend light-skinned East Asians are The Other White Meat, and we’re supposed to happily act out the facade. In truth, Asians in the West have little political power, the greatest income gap, and have always been targets for under-reported social violence.
The Good White Folks
There’s a certain type of White folk who refer to themselves as the Good Ones. Those words are tossed on like a cape meant to magically conceal and absolve racism.
Yes! Magazine | The Trauma of Transracial Adoption
Like many transracial adoptees with White parents, I was raised in racial isolation, which caused me to have a fractured identity, experiencing racial confusion and internal bias.